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Originally Posted by seeker1950
I'm sorry you had the bad exp with the other group. Try not to obsess over it. (I tend to obsess also!) The nature of online groups is they can form into cliques (such as I observed with the online women's group), and the behaviors can be even more brutal with online anonymity than in real life.
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I'm sorry that happened to you, Seeker. And I think you're right, a lot of these groups form cliques and band together to bully other members they don't like, especially new members. The site I was at definitely had formed a clique. But I would expect a support forum run by a clinical psychologist to be a little more professional about something like that... Apparently I was wrong. It's great that Doc John and the mods here are a lot more understanding.
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Your story sounds somewhat similar to what I have heard about schizophrenia.com. To put the name of that one out in the open. But I do not have personal experience with that.
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I have heard of other sites like this. I've heard a lot of horror stories about Sam Vaknin's "support" site, and how they're basically brainwashing their members to fear everyone that has confidence in themselves. I wonder if there's some law against that?
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Hi Meyers,
I'm sorry you're were antagonized then ostracized - certainly not fair. At 1st I thought it was because some members are afraid and don't like psychopaths(due to the bad wrap on TV/movies), so they assume they can automatically be mean to you. But you said there were other psychopaths who are still there - could it be one of these members railroaded you out?
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No, the other antisocial/psychopathic/malignant narcissistic individuals joined after I had been banned. A few of them I knew from psychforums
(another forum I hang out at). They also had a discussion about how "psychopath" is a buzz word, and that's why they were suspicious of me. However, types of psychosis and all Cluster B personality disorders have a stimulus to their terms as well. And there were more than a few fights and arguments that broke out between the members ... Sometimes over me, however, I don't see how that's my fault. It's not like I intended for that to happen. Probably could have handled it better, but there's only so many insults I can take before I feel obligated to defend myself.
But it doesn't explain what was meant by "there's more to my story than meets the eye", or the fact that they silenced anyone who defended me, or why my account says "validating" instead of "banned".
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I think what started the whole meaness(on their part) was 'prejudice' - they think "we don't want to be polite to someone who's mean by nature". So they antagonized you, hoping you would doom yourself. I agree because it's the internet, it's far too easy to cast someone aside.
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Yeah, that's true, and I usually expect some people to have that sort of reaction to me at first. I think they also wrote me off quickly because I never shared my "personal story" or gave any reason as to why I think and act the way I do. I probably would have eventually told my story, but I have trust issues. Not to mention the head admin (the psychologist) was complaining in his blog about not being able to drive because he got a DUI. Didn't think it was the best time to bring up that my first wife was killed and I am crippled because of a drunk driver...
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You've been fair and polite here, even during debates and I(others) here accept you on that basis and not by your diagnosis title. You're welcome here Meyers and you don't have to stifle or hide. Mean people justify bad actions, when it comes to prejudice - they automatically didn't give you a chance based on their own prejudice views and hatred. It's not fair you were treated this way.
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Thanks lynn P., I'm glad I found this site.