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Old May 15, 2010, 10:21 PM
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Good for you helping her out. Also, let her know that no one can ever know her pain... And that you are sorry she was hurt. It is vital that she knows that while many people have CSA, that each person is entitled to their own pain and anger about it. Just as you are entitled to your own anger. Those emotions she has are valid and she is free to express in a safe way what she feels.
WePow, thank you, good reminders! With much T, it's been easier to feel, but my default is still to want to just DO and discount feelings. It's been easier to let them in lately, and provide comfort to my girl- and myself.
She is SO good at expressing herself. In our house we talk a lot about it's okay to have many feelings, and to be upset but you are still responsible for your actions and expectations don't just go away. It's a balancing act, for sure. Left to my own devices I focus on the 'powering though' side of things... easy to forget there are other options! If the test seems too much, we can ask for an alternate assignment.
Thanks for this!
WePow