I'm scheduled for a (medically necessary, not cosmetic) plastic surgery in about four weeks. I have needed to have this particular procedure done for over 10 years and my insurance company finally agreed to cover the operation. Of course I scheduled the surgery for the first possible appointment with my plastic surgeon. I am so excited to have the procedure; it's been a long time coming and I'm very excited and hopeful about the changes it will bring in my life.

My question is about the fact that while this is not considered "cosmetic", it will obviously have some effect on my physical appearance (it is plastic surgery, after all). I have never been a very confident person, and have always been self-conscious and awkward in social situations because of my appearance. Now that my "barrier" will be gone, I will have nothing to hide behind. I have never NOT had a reason to be self-conscious. How do I create confidence, when I don't really know what it feels like?

Let me be clear... I have a lot of confidence in myself and I know that I have a tremendous amount of value. I understand that my value and my worth are not based on my looks. I'm a successful business woman and I'm told I'm attractive - I just haven't ever felt that way. So from a purely physical standpoint, I'm nervous about getting attention (in a good way) for the first time.

Any suggestions on how to deal with the inevitable new-found attention?

Thanks!