Hi Torn Mind,

There is so many different kinds of abuse and emotional abuse has just as bad of an effect on us as any other abuse would be. We sometimes feel unwanted, damaged, useless, low self esteem, feelings of being a nobody and sometimes feel to the point that we need not go on. All these feelings come from many types of abuse, sometimes we don't know where or who to point the finger at as to why we are the way we are today. I am a survivor of sexual abuse along with so much emotional abuse. When things weren't going well and I would sink into depression and sometimes wanting to give up on life, I always pointed the finger where it belonged which was to those who made me feel this way, it didn't help much until I was able to learn to take all that control that they had over me and I took it back from them, I am now in control and once we learn to take that control back then we begin to feel whole as a person again. I know that there are times that we may still slip back into those down modes though and that we will still be hurt in the future with different situations but taking that control back now from those who dished out the abuse then you can grow, know who you are, where you want to be in life, learn to love yourself for who you are. I have found for each time I go through rough times, I grow stronger and wiser to keep pushing on, I have myself respect and stand up for myself now even though at times it may hurt we must always take care of ourselves. I hope this helps some.