Thanks for your answers.

She spent last year two weeks in a hospital after such a speechless attack. She said to her friend's mother that she didn't want to see me anymore. She had this because I told her that she had to pack her suitcase as her class had to go to a summercamp the next day. She didn't want to go to this summer camp. Furthermore she had told to a social help worker at school that she already had thought to commit suicide when she was at her father's about four weeks before.

In the two weeks the contact between us was reestablished, thus she came home. The psychiatrist said that we had to discuss every evening how the day had been for her. She never came to discuss. On the Sunday we told her that this time we had to discuss. She run away into the woods nearby. She didn't want to come home. As the psychiatrist had told us that she was a candidate for suicide, we had to get her with the police. She tried to escape. They put her in a psychiatric hospital for seven weeks. After that time she came home again until a few weeks ago.

The first time I noticed that she doesn't speek was in 1998, when I got divorced from my first husband. Once she came back from visiting him and I heard her tell her brother (he was 2.5) that he shouldn't talk to me. She managed not to speak to me up to two days. The psychiatrist in 1998 didn't find out what it was.

I read quite a lot about speechless terror these past few weeks. Nowhere I found something why my child doesn't speek to me. "Normally" such children don't speek to other people, but the contact to the mother remains.

As I have no idea what could have happened in her life, I'm quite desperate. If you have an idea....? Thank you very much.