While I can't decide if another person is an alcoholic or not, I can and do recognize the signs. He has told you that he can't have one or two drinks and that the point of drinking is to get drunk. Those were my reasons for drinking along with a host of other "reasons". You have brought the subject up with him and there is no positive response. It doesn't sound like he is ready to deal with the repercussions of drinking such as staying in the bars and spending all his money. I didn't realize that there was a life outside the bars and I didn't understand other people not drinking. Speaking from a recovering alcoholic's point of view, I don't see him changing anytime too soon. You sound like you are a very caring person and seem to genuinely want to help but because you need to take care of yourself first, please think carefully first before taking action. There are a lot of websites out there about alcoholism, please arm yourself with knowledge. I hope everything works out for you. Keep the faith.