I don't want to just leave your thread unanswered, so I will give this a shot...

I can understand the sensitivity to questions, sometimes I am like that too. To a large degree, I am a very private person and I don't even tell my husband everything about what's going on with me.

I haven't read any of your other posts, so I am unsure whether you are seeing a doctor, are in therapy or on meds (or any combo of those mentioned). I would guess that therapy and meds would probably help this feeling of ultra sensitivity.

Do you love this man? Guess I should have asked that first off. If you don't love him, no amount of patience from him is going to help. If you do love him, then maybe he will give you the space you need to feel comfortable with all of this.