Michelle,

You said: "i would be interested in hearing your thoughts on these ideas."

You are a caring partner and because of your compassion you are choosing to embrace the world of multiplicity. It is a rare thing for me to see someone take such an interest other than those curious about how the multiple works or those who are intending to be counsellors or therapists. It shows me that you are different because you love for your partner and have a love for 'the different'.

It is, no doubt, going to be a happier road for you and your partner as you learn and are learning how to navigate yourself with a person who is multiple. Perhaps your future lifework is the outcome of some of this and I wish you much success in your education.

Oh, that we would all see each other with such love and compassion. That goes for me too. That when I meet someone who is different from me, that I would see them as another human being and not someone who is for example without a limb, or hair, or developmentally delayed, or in a wheelchair, or acting out, or, well, you get the idea. I think mental illness is a frontier that we all would like to see more acceptance in and you, Michelle have taken the time to seek us and reach out and you are trying to show us that we too are lovable.

I would like to say back that I love you too. I know some people have been abused with the word love so I hope if they are reading this they substitute whatever caring word they may use.

Please Michelle feel free to tell me more about yourself. I just know you have a great desire to 'show' us all that we are loved by at least one other person in the world.

Thank you for taking the time. It can be a bit of a triggering subject but I thank you for being gracious to hear the hurt and hear the healing and still decide to love. It is a 'mighty' thing that you are doing and I want to respond in kind, without malice.

As we each of us continue to pursue our healing we will remember your tenderness of heart and mind. I look forward to hearing from more citizens of this planet who will say, hi, thanks for you.


You said: "i think many of these things are benefits to them. they are such amazing people with great gifts."

Yes, I think so too! I am pretty gifted and I am grateful.

You said: "i also have to say that the way kathy sometimes uses "singleton" to describe non-multiple people makes me totally giggle (at myself). i love it, because it challenges me. it makes me feel different, differently abled, perhaps."

I am afraid I really dislike the word singleton as it is another way to point a finger at me. Like I don't think other people with a mental illness call other people they relate to something else. It is kind of strange and I've never liked it.

You said: "i know that being multiple is very hard, and no one should ever have to go through the trauma that creates that way of being... "

But I do hope you will continue to advocate for those children who have suffered and are still suffering 'trauma' as I have chosen to do. It is about the only way we can bring an end to this horrific condition.

You said: "but i do believe that the people who survive those conditions are incredibly gifted, important, and just awe-inspiring amazing people. and that greatness has given them the gift of surviving, life... a life that is challenging, but i believe that life (those lives, all those people who exist in any way together) is important to this world. you are still here because you are special."

Thank you and you are pretty awe-inspiring yourself! And I am special as are you. I pray you take good care of yourself too and whatever conditions you may need to address in yourself and that other supportive people would come here to this forum and just validate us with their love (using their own words that is).

Have a good day Michelle.

Cheers
Hunny