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Originally Posted by Yoda
What was the content of the messages you read? Were they more along the lines of casual friends chatting or provocative and sexy? How is your relationship with your wife otherwise? Has she been acting indifferent toward you in the past few months while she was talking to him or were you and she intimate and close?
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I personally think that while the content of the messgaes come into play somewhat, that it is irrelevant. The fact of the matter is she kept it a secret, she clearly knew it was wrong and an emotional affair is just as damaging, and often worse than a one night stand.
Your wife was giving a part of herself meant only for you to another man. I hope you two are seeking counseling for this or it will happen again, the only difference is she may have a physical affair as well. You need to own your part in the marriage not being in a good place, she own the emotional affair all on her own. She could have made different choices.
I have been down this road. If you dont seek counseling for this it will happen again. Your wife needs to work on her boundries and you both need to put up "fences" to safeguard your marriage.
Good luck.