I don't have any issue with him going to a co workers party. What I have issue with is that he flirted with her, snuck around to see her (i.e. go to her party) and lied about it. He has admited that he is attracted to her, but says if he is committed to working on our relationship I don't have to worry about it. Also, he has told me since day one that he never dates in the work place. My only concern about her is that he is attracted to her and she was what he lied about to me repeatedly.
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Originally Posted by Perna
I would give him another chance but I would make sure that he knows the lying is the issue, not that he has a woman friend at work and goes to her parties, etc.
If you are not formally connected, he still can do whatever he wants in his time and even if you were married, he could, technically, go to coworker parties, etc. We're going to a party of my husband's former coworkers tonight and he just happens to be taking me with him but it would not bother me if I were not to go because I'm sure of him and his attachment to me. So I would make sure that your issues aren't trying to limit him as to who he's allowed to see, etc. (that's all his choice, always, it's his life) but that you do not wish to be lied to (so you can make your own, informed choices of what you want to do with your life).
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