A couple of people above have pointed out that she was doing this secretly as eveidence of her wrongdoing. While I agree with this, in my opinion it pales next to the fact that she lied about it when confronted; that, to me, would be the greatest of the issues.

There are other issues though. You said that you've never had an affair because your kids flash in your mind. That may be appropriate for the type of relationship you are satisfied with but it doesn't speak to a closeness between the two of you. I mean, I don't cheat on my wife because I have no desire to but if I did...if an affair was something I was interested in for me, I wouldn't do it then because it would be painful to her. I am the reason I don't have an affair and she is the second reason - it seems incomprehensible to me that one would need to go outside of the relationship to find a reason to not cheat, you know? Which begs the question, for me anyway, that if you aren;t cheating because of your kids - what do you and your wife have?