Hmmm addmomof1 that was a bit harsh about the panties being bunched up do you not think? These moms have tried coping without meds and did everything possible to help their children. The expectations that we put to our children are not met, repeatedly. There is a failure to thrive. Unless they are savant like and considered specially gifted then they fall through the cracks in education. My son is considered gifted but is not making the grade - pun intended. I and his father (and our other son) are at our wit's end. He is too. It is like asking someone with diabetes to just stop eating and jog every day for five miles or whatever. You have to have serious motivation and will to succeed. Sometimes lack of motivation is part of the problem of ADHD. I hope that all our children grow out of this somewhat and learn to motivate themselves. I did. I wish you and your family well. I came here for support and I need it too. Is it the best thing in the world to medicate our kids? Well, at this point, if he doesn't medicate himself he will grow up very handicapped and totally dependent it seems to me.