Thanks, WePow. I know that's a more helpful stance to take, much more productive than getting on the 'misery train' but it's a well worn track, you know?
Today my girl refused to get up because there was a test in health, on human anatomy although no questions on rape. She slept all day- we had quite the discussion when I returned home, and I was pretty hard on her. At one point she said- you are being such a BRAT to me! And it was true. It was enough of a shock that I could step back, and apologize and let her know that I often avioded life when things got bad by sleeping, and I wanted better for her. So that helped us both, I think. My girl just deserves so much more...