How did I know that was coming next.

How well do you know this guy? Is he ever harsh and blunt with you? He said he was awake all night worrying about you. He has said the words as planly and clearly and bluntly as he can. He is not going to add more insult to the injury. He cares about you and doesn't want to cause you more pain. He isn't even prepared to nurture a friendship because he is worried that will be hurtful for you because it gives you false hope.

At this point in time he is not in love with you enough to change his current situation and give a relationship with you a second change. Is that not clear in his reply?

If his 'think' still gives you hope how does that change anything for you? At best it is an extension of the wait and see holding pattern. Are you prepared to wait and see if maybe he will think differently tomorrow or next month or next year? Right now he isn't there for you. Right now you have no choice but to let go of the slim chance you are still hanging on to and let him live his life as he has chosen to live it. Without you Belle. He has chosen to give his heart to another. He doesn't see himself turning that around.

What life dreams are you prepared to give up while you keep the door open for him? You are already compromising you ability to give your heart to a new man. Mr. Right could walk in your door and you wouldn't recognize him because you are still holding onto the hope that Mark will call and beg you to take him back. You are dating yes but is your heart open or are you just filling time while you wait? Seems to me holding on to the hope is costing you a lot.

How many times are you prepared to relive the pain you have lived with today and each day your hopes rise again? When are you going to allow the pain to fade? Those seem to me to be the questions in front of you. Hanging on means enduring more pain until you get the kind of finality you think you need before you let go. A finality that may never come because he isn't that kind of guy. But you know that already so maybe it is just how your brain plays tricks on you. You know he will never be that blunt unless maybe if you turn into some kind of stalker crazy woman slandering his name all over the internet..... if you trash him enough then maybe he will get really mad and blunt. If you push him hard enough he might give you the blunt response you want. But you know he wouldn't hurt you unless he sees no other way to get the message through to you.