Well stated, and I definitely agree.

My now 25 year old son taught me a lot about this. I am most supportive to him when I show I understand, when I let him have his feelings, without trying to quickly take the anger or other feeling from him.

He, all of us, have the right to our feelings. This can include me as listener and empathizer not trying to make it all go away, not try to minimize it or redefine it. Or even try to -fix- it, unless ideas are asked for.

For myself, my feelings, including anger and frustration, along with my experiences.......when another human being truly understands, it is grand. So simple yet so fulfilling.

In understanding, the other person doesn't have to suffer with me or for me, we don't need to whip up a lot of drama, we get to just be.

Sarah