I wish you success ADDMom. There are varying degrees of ADHD/ADD - maybe he is more functional and with your assistance will learn some really good coping strategies. My son is very disorganized, set in his own ways and somewhat defiant. How old is your child? Mine is 18 next month and I stand by my word of him becoming handicapped if he continues doing what he is presently doing. He is quite dysfunctional at this point. Maybe he is a slow developer. He is mature in some ways and quite immature in others. I have tried it without meds; now it is the recommendation of the psych to put him on meds. I hope he won't have to do it for the rest of his life. I just want him to finish highschool; and get a job of some kind. I had high expectations for him when he was younger; I have since lowered them to a degree. I will not give up though and I will support him however I can. I just want him to be able to live a decent life and not be left all alone. I worry that he will be dependent upon us for a long time. I know this sounds somewhat dramatic, but it is how I feel about the situation.

Peace