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Originally Posted by brighteyesxo
...Now I try not to let her get to me usually, but this really hurt. The depression (which I now am certainly never going to tell her about) I think is very real to me and I'm working on telling my parents. I don't doubt that it's real. But the social issues now. I'm having all sorts of second thoughts.
I don't want to try to talk to her about it. She's headstrong and it is impossible to negotiate with her. But how do I ignore it? Has anyone else ever faced someone like this? How did you deal with it?
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It would be very nice if everyone could understand and be supportive. It would also be nice to feel understood by one of your closest friends. However, that doesn't always happen. Depression, anxiety etc... unfortunately are illnesses of the mind. A lot of people think that we can just "will" ourselves out of it. If only....
Most of the time, the people that hate doctors do so only until they really need one...
It helps me sometimes to try and maintain a generosity of spirit, accept people's limitations and try to be friends with them anyway. This may be a topic that you simply can not talk to her about. If it ends up causing
you stress, then it likely isn't worth it.
You are unlikely to change her thinking, but you can try to develop an acceptance for it - even though she is unable to give you the same acceptance. She may "grow into it" or, heaven forbid, it may happen to her.