(((((((((((((Pet, Patty, and DE))))))))))) Thanks

I think I even averted a prickly situation by saying I was driving my daughter to her appointment instead of him. My ex talked to my son last night and said he wouldn't be there because he has a conference that starts 1/2 an hour before her appointment. Had I not said I was taking her, he would have hit me with that little surprise and asked me at the last minute to take her, putting a wrench in my work schedule.

By being assertive, I knew a week ahead of time that I would have to rearrange my work hours, not just 12 hours ahead of time. They'd have still had to be rearranged, but in a slightly different manner, or not at all because he was pulling the "you really don't have to be there" maneuver again. (Like I'm going to fall for that one again. Pfffft).

He knows I hate last minute changes regarding work, but because I have a very flexible schedule he really takes advantage of it and says the same thing every time - "that's not a problem, is it?" When it's something important like this, what am I going to say? "No, find someone else to take your kid to the doctor." ? I think not.

So, anyway, I'm feeling even better about my decision. Now, I just hope my therapist calls back soon with an appointment time so I can tell him the good news.