You don't know that someone with adhd will not be handicapped if they don't medicate themselves. There are wide variations in ability and disability among people with adhd. Many DO need to take medication in order to be able to hold down a job or relate with other people. Some people can manage the symptoms without meds, but many cannot. Can you acknowledge that the symptoms vary in severity from case to case?

And I do object to your assumption that people give their child medication so other people "can stand" them. Not every adhd child has behavioral problems. Or, even if they do, their behaviors don't generally warrant people disliking them. Medications aren't given to change personality; they are given so these kids are able to focus, learn, organize their thinking, thrive to their fullest. My own son has never been a behavioral problem, but his ability to focus, to contain his movement, organize his thinking, etc. is greatly impaired without medication. It frustrates him to no end if he has forgotten his meds and is unable to do what he wants and needs to do. He wants to take his meds. He takes them without having to be asked. He lets me know when his prescription is about to run out.