Typo, this is something that you can definitely work through. Your awareness and insight is very good, you have to know where you are at before you can move forward. Have you talked about this anger towards your abuser in therapy?

I don't believe that saying about girls who have been SA, not one bit! You fell into this before you were aware, but now you are aware and you are working to heal and have a better life and this is exactly what you will accomplish.

I grew up in a rural northern Michigan area where many people had problems. I got beyond that and so will you if you are determined to.

Some things that I did to move forward was to figure out where I was on an issue, figure out what was normal, and worked towards solving the problem for myself.