You can't "ship off" your children unless there is a close relative who is willing to help you out for a few days. You have to deal with them. That's parenting. If you are needing some parenting classes, I'm sure you can find some nearby. I'm sure the two youngest are a handful, as are most 1 and 3 year olds. Patience and consistency are what is needed when handling toddlers. What does your husband say about the situation?