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Originally Posted by polarsmom
Okay, Disappointed because I haven't been able to talk to him. And sad because HE is the one I want to call when something is wrong. I hate that I "need" him. And I don't want to need him. I don't want to hear him in my head. For some reason all of a sudden it bothers me that this is a one-sided relationship. (no, I'm not thinking of him in anyway other than a friend. Which I know, he's not my 'friend'. He's my therapist. THAT is the problem) It depresses me that I have no body else to lean on when I'm hurting. And even more so when I think about how the only person I have to talk to is my T. And he's paid to pretend that he gives a crap.
Why is this happening?? Where did all this come from? What do I do?
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polarsmom I too have felt this way 'needy' toward my therapist. I find it hard to wait for my next apt especially when it's a couple weeks away. I also many times feel like I need to call her when there's a problem in my life. Therapy is an ideal situation - to have some one sit and listen to you and look out for your own best interests BUT any other time outside of that room they are off limits. The reality is T's are are doing a job that we are paying them to do. They are trying to help us.
A goal in your therapy can/should be that you get to a point where you don't need them anymore (I personally don't know when I'll reach that goal).
Lean on us when you're hurting
. I don't know what I would do if I didn't have this forum to lean on. It has helped me in so many ways to read postings such as yours and to have others answer my many questions.