I think I put my opinion on this early and it was a generalized observation. I have started thinking of the family of origin work I did on my father. He supported our family financially and hardly saw him other than dinner time. What I found out was very revealing. He was shipped off to military school when he was seven. Went all the way through military academy. This was very revealing to me because how is my father suppose to learn about feeling and emotional support and nurturing when the main objective of the school is to produce some of the finest officers in the US Military. Not a nuturing man.