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Jenn1fer82: First I want to say congrats on your accomplishment.
I completely understand your situation because I've gone through it myself only it wasn't my mother, it was my brother. He was always very critical of me growing up and it seemed like no matter how hard I tried, no matter what I accomplished, no matter what good deed I'd done, it was never good enough for him.
I spent most of my life trying to get his approval and then one day I asked myself....did it really matter in the greater scheme of things whether or not he approved of me and how I've lived my life? Yes, it would feel good to have heard him say that he was proud of me, that he was happy for me, that he knew I could do whatever I set my mind to, that no matter what...he loved me. The words never came so I continued to live my life in a way that made me proud of myself and said to hell with the rest of it. It wasn't easy but it can be done.
Have u ever expressed how u feel to your mother? Maybe if u say it out loud she will hear it and understand how her behavior makes u feel. She may even make the effort to change the behavior. If not, YOU have got to move on with your life and accept that you will never get the approval you need from her and let it go.
I hope things get better for you. Take care!
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