((kadesgirl)) -yes you have your hands full for sure. Lets start with your 1 yr old - at this age it's a matter of keeping him out of trouble and child proofing your home. Your 11 yr old should be taking some responsibility at his age - meaning instead of him fighting with his siblings he's helping out. He may be feeling lost in all the chaos and that's why he's acting out. You can discipline him by taking away priveleges - computer, video games, ipod and going outside(grounding). Hopefully in the summer you can afford a day camp for the 11 yr old perhaps.

With the 3 yr old, use consistent time outs. With getting dressed he's old enough to participate in making choices. Have his clothes matched up - ex. pants/shorts with matching shirts all ready on the same hanger. Make it sound exciting and tell him, he can chose what he wants to wear and dress himself - then give him a reward for doing this on his own. When kids feel they have a choice, they cooperate better. You can also use a reward system with them -for the 3 yr old it might be stickers or a dollar store toy. Get a huge calendar and put up stickers for good behavior - so many stickers add up to a reward - make it fun. Same thing with 11 yr old except he would get rewards appropriate for his age. Give him some chores and responsibilities and an allowance for doing them.

Make sure they have access to healthy snacks. Tired and hungry kids misbehave. Good parenting is the most difficult job in the world but also the most rewarding. Play interactive games(like board games with them). Take some time outs for yourself - call it mommy time for 30 min. At the right time set the timer for 30 while you sit and relax -do some deep breathing.

If you have a friend or trustworthy relative - make a trade with them. They watch your kids and next you watch their children for the day. Get them out to the park for some exercise and bring snacks. Best of luck.