As you can see, there are so many ways to work through this together. I just fear the stigma of the illness and his fear are talking. Sometimes the fear itself can render someone unwilling to even learn what BP really is. Can you talk to him about just learning about the symptoms? You got some really good advice above but wanted to adress your feelings about this. No doubt his actions are making the bipolar worse. I would feel mad frustrated and scared in the very least. Mad because of those marriage vows...the ones that say for better, for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health. Yeah, those are the ones that keep a marriage in place. Gives the couple the confidence to know they will have someone by their side. So, no matter the outcome, we are here for you as you work through this.