First, I'd like to say welcome to PC electro and momindistress!

electro I don't think you have ever really known the person your boyfriend is. I think most of your relationship is based on lies that he has made up. His personality may also be a character that he is playing and he could change when he decides that he is ready for something new. Then you may not feel so safe.

I agree with momindistress. Feeling safe and being taken care of are not reasons to base a relationship on. They are what you do for each other when you have a solid relationship together. Good luck to you. I hope you find the answers that you are seeking.