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As Babysteps pointed out you asked three questions so let me try to answer them one at a time.
1) “My question, what makes the "negative" behavior so acceptable to others?”
I don’t know that it is acceptable but I think there are two different reasons why it is so common. Some people actively engage in it in order to tear other people down to make themselves feel better. Other people go along with it because they are afraid of becoming the target of the bullies that are all around us.
2) “Or, what would I gain in coping with negative behavior?”
Nothing, other people’s negative behavior is something to be avoided not something you should expend energy trying to cope with.
3) Or, better yet, WOULD becoming a negative person (crossing over to the otherside) help me to cope?
NO! What would help is first don’t let yourself get sucked into this game. And if possible confront not only the bullies but those that go along with them, point out how weak and petty they are.
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“If we could change ourselves, the tendencies in the world would also change. As a man changes his own nature, so does the attitude of the world change towards him. ... We need not wait to see what others do.” Gandhi
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