So..he's a pathological liar? Someone who lies about every stupid little thing like as you said.. he'll tell you he met Paul and Ross when he only met Paul. He might not have bi-polar but he's got that mental disorder. If that's the case then the lies won't stop unless he realizes he has a problem and wants to stop or get help for it.

- 9 months isn't a long time. It might seem it because you're only 20 and even if it's the longest relationship youve been in.. 9 months isn't much..especially when you didn't know the real him until recently because it was based on lies and bs.

- You haven't listed anything you like about him that's too unique..So he treats you nice and makes you feel safe.. Those are pretty generic traits a guy can have.

- I don't see the big deal about working where he works and knowing he's brought girls home. It's a bar. That's what happens there. He's with you now and as long as you're sure he's not bringing girls home anymore..so what. Let it go.

You're not really the one that has to "change" to make this relationship work. He's the one that needs to stop lying and making up stories and games. He sounds immature..tells you about his manwhoring to make you jealous..even though you're living with him and together.. why does he want you jealous? What's he testing?