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Old May 20, 2010, 10:12 PM
Anonymous29329
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*This post is geared towards the issue of adult offenders

What I find interesting is that some are making it seem as if it is wrong that a T choose not to treat offenders. -- "that everyone deserves help."

As someone said an "US" versus "THEM" issue.

Perhaps a T was a victim and has decided that it would be too complicated for T to work with offenders?
Perhaps a T is truly disgusted by the behavior and sorry excuses that many offenders offer and hence would not be affective in helping offenders?
Perhaps a T simply wants to apply all their energy and skills to helping those that were victims?

For those that think T's don't know and it sets a false sense of security or T is lying, that is not always true.
If clients are court-ordered for treatment, T's know they are offenders. T's that work in the field of abuse, also have a feeling ~ sort of how they can spot a "survivor"....
Additionally, in my city, it is very clear which T's treat offenders..even the phonebook/internet list T's in a specialty for offenders.
Some T's give detailed intake forms that ask about these issues to weed out clients with a history of being abusive.
Furthermore, if a client reveals they are an offender, some T's will refer them out irregardless of where the relationship is.

Is is possible to have a practice that is offender free. There is nothing wrong with this. Nothing.

And it is fair to ask and want an offender-free T.

And yes, it could be viewed as an "US" versus "THEM" issue. Why?

"THEM" were the people that CHOOSE to hurt someone else.
"US" were the people that were hurt.

"THEM" were the people that were selfish and only cared about their wants
"US" were the people that were giving -- of ourselves, our bodies, our brains, our lives

"THEM" were the ones that damaged a childhood/young adulthood
"US" are the ones trying to pick up the pieces.

People make a CHOICE to abuse. But people DO NOT make a choice to be abused.
Thanks for this!
AtreyuFreak, WePow