Actually, I strongly disagree with you on this. I have none of "THEM" in me. I, like many other "victims" have made a conscious choice to not hurt anyone, to not become "THEM," irregardless of what my life saw, experienced and what was the cycle of abuse as I knew it. I made a choice, a different choice then "THEM". And in fact, many of "US" could not even fathom that level of harm that "THEM" have committed.

Now, yes, many abusers have claimed a history of abuse, so you might say they have some of "us" in "them." But what makes the major difference, many of "us" (me) choose not to hurt and choose to stop the cycle of abuse. I, like many others choose NOT to harm.

Maybe you have part of "them" in you and made your choice to harm at that level, but I can 100% state that what makes "them" does not make me.
I stopped the cycle and choose NOT to hurt. And in fact, if I died tomorrow, there is no-one I need to apologize to for ever harming.

I am stepping out because you know nothing about me to state that part of "THEM" is in me or the level of harm that they do is in "me". -- Nothing. And it is insulting.

And most "victims" should be offended by that statement. Because the statistics show that most "victims" never go on to harm people. In fact, most victims harm themselves and shudder at the thought of hurting anyone or anything...and especially at that level of harm.