Thanks all.
T wrote me this morning, says clearly I have questions for him, would I consider another appt, we can perhaps have more clarity if we meet again.

I said yes, I'd come and listen, but not right now, maybe in June. I don't have confidence in getting a direct answer. I want to keep my heart and mind open and flexible. But, my logical and emotional selves, plus my family members (husband, SIL) do not want me to return to a situation where I might get hurt again. Need to heal a bit more.

It's funny, he is SO neutral in his responses but would never say he's psychoanalytic or Freudian! He says he is eclectic. He once said I'm his most Freudian client but could not explain what he meant. I think he's adapted to what I needed at the time? But I have also changed a great deal in 16 mo of weekly therapy! So, what I need now may be different from what he can provide. We have previously discussed gaps between what I'd like in therapy and what he can provide. Maybe that is where we go again in order to close this out.

There is no "Cosmo Quiz" about keep or dump your therapist!