Yoda, yes my mother in law lives with us but she can not handle the 3 y/o by herself. When she does watch him with or without the other children theres always something destroyed in the house when we get home. My mom has offered to take him one weekend in the future but theres no telling when. So for now, he just goes with us to the store and we leave the other two home with my mother in law. That in itself makes me sad because I feel like taking him we are rewarding him for bad behavior. But we have no choice. Then my husband doesnt help the situation and buys him treats every time we go anywhere. To me I dont think he should get a treat until we get home and he has been good. Erg. And I do try to sit him in time out but he wont stay put. If we are at the store and he is being bad I put all 55 pounds of him on my hip and hold him like that. Its the only thing I have found that works when we are not at home. I think if it werent for my anxiety and the fact that he is so big, it wouldnt be such a problem. Its just that by the end of the work day I am so anxious about what the kids are going to get into tonight. (namely 3 y/o) Then by the time I reach the bed my heart is pounding and the room is spinning and I feel like I am on the edge of a panic attack. And guess what? the 3 y/o is still awake. lol Thanks yoda for the advise. Glad to know Im not alone out here