Trinity, that's how it's been for me.

jenkins, I'm not sure if that's what codependency is, or is it?

fay, it makes sense but it's not just that.

TheByzantine: Thank you for replying. My former T said I could use monthly check-in visits indefinitely, though she said I was ready to stop regular sessions long before she suggested that. She knew I was too attached to her, but she couldn't help me with it. She was too strict with me, and I kept fighting her on it. I was with her for 5 years plus 2 more "as needed" but not monthly. There was always some benefit besides the "addiction" part, so she let me continue to see her.

I've already been with my new T for a few months. She's different--does IFS and EMDR and we are actively working on why I want to stay in therapy forever as the main issue. My former T didn't let the child part of me have her say, which I needed to do badly. I think this time it will work, but if not, I will definitely ask her what I am supposed to do.