Thanks LoveBirdsFlying... And its ok..can understand your frustration. I have to say that this comment " At least she took you in, gave you shelter, fed you.....some people don't even have that option. " hit a nerve with me too. It must be great to have that kind of relationship with your mother where you can be grateful but not everyone has that.

It's not helpful at all. You never know what lies beneath the surface. I've heard that "at least she does this and that" all my life because looks are deceiving and nobody really knew what went on at home. My situation is different and it's not so much that she's a control freak.. it's other things not really worth getting into. I've never posted much about my mother. She won't change and I've just accepted that I don't like who she is and but I'm stuck having to deal with her unless something manages to change where I can get away from her. I've posted more about my father.

My father has also offered to take me in after I once asked him out of desperation. Can I use that "At least he's offering to take me in" logic when he's clearly a psycho? I'm still sorting this mess in my head and even though he's paranoid/obsessive/narcistic/whoknowswhatelse.. he's offered me simple things that my mother isn't able to give me..such as being supportive and would put me first even if in his psychotic mind.. he just wants to win me over to get back at my mother for leaving him over 20 years ago. I guess his intentions, strings and mental problems don't matter if he's at least willing to take me in and buy me a car.

Sorry, just venting. No hard feelings.