(((((((((((Lily))))))))))))))))))

A couple of times when I was really obsessing about T, instead of pushing it away, or trying to stop, or tell myself I "shouldn't", I just sat down (actually laid on my bed), set a timer, and gave myself 15 minutes to obsess. If my mind wandered to something else, I brought it back to T. I imagined all sorts of stuff...him shopping at the store, him playing with his daughter, him driving in his car...and when the 15 minutes was up, I was kind of DONE. It was like I got it out of my system, and even though he might pass through my mind later in the day, it was just a passing thought.

I think I read to do that in a book I bought for my son about worrying.

I'm SO sorry she hasn't e-mailed. Truly, every time my T has not e-mailed/called me back, there has always been a good, legitimate reason...but that is hard to remember when I'm in the middle of waiting for a reply. I hope you hear from her soon.