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Originally Posted by lynn P.
True it has everything to do with self esteem. Only say it when it's necessary. When you say sorry for simple things, this gives other people who might not be nice the wrong message - that you could be easily manipulated and they have control over your emotions. All they have to do is show the slightest displeasure and you'll say sorry. Practice mindfulness and think before you react- only say it when it's necessary only.
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I like what LynnP said, and it is so true...to do with low self-esteem. Also, to practice mindfulness about your responses. Of course, easier said than done when a behavior is established from early life onward, as it has been in my own exp. Once, in my 30's a counselor said to me, "You know, you're entitled to your 2 square feet of earth!" .... which was probably in response to my apologizing for my problems or my very presence in his office!
Splitimage mentioned becoming less apologetic as a result of working in a male-dominated situation, and my own work situation has cured me of this sorry syndrome somewhat as well. I still do it, but, as lynnp says, am much more mindful and aware of it, so do it less.
