Solar, I don't think anyone can make you have any kind of transference with them, it just happens, I think the point of therapy is not to make it go away, but to bring it out, to look at it and understand it and then help heal the areas that have gone unmet. Yes I am an adoptee and struggle with the "I need you, but will you reject me because thats my first experience", but if you get a sound therapist all this will be resolved.