(((Evening))) - thank you for sharing your story and I'm sorry you had to go through this with your mom and home life. I agree not all teenagers are the same.
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Thank you to everyone who responded so far and it's good to see the varied opinions. I think the emotion behind my OP is fear for my own children. I was also shocked at the way this girl behaves. I don't want to believe that my children are ready to have sex at 13 - it's scary. I had my girls late and I admit I have strong values. I also grew up in the late 70's and when I was 13, the kids didn't talk about sex until 16 and up. Girls weren't welcoming random boys to touch them.

I never dated until I was 18 when I met my now present husband. Looking back I regret and wish I waited even longer - I wasn't ready emotionally for a relationship. I regret getting sidetracked from University.

I've already discussed sex in the appropriate way last year with my daughter and we continue to talk - she knows I'm an open book. They're learning it in school right now and we joked that she probably won't learn anything new. My own mom never educated me at all about sex.

Now that I looked up this girl on Facebook, I feel there's something seriously wrong with her or the way she's raised. Her parents/guardian shouldn't allow her to put up these pictures or talk the way she does - profanities. My daughter has Facebook but I know what's on it and she has strict privacy settings, so only allowed people can see her page. With this girl, millions can see her posing in a very small bikini. I'm going to inform the principle about her Facebook and see if I can find an email to directly write to them.

I don't want to believe it's now the norm for kids 13 and up to have sex - I hope they're the minority. I believe access to the internet makes it worse. I also feel sorry for kids who watch porn before they've even had sex. Before there were computers young people explored their sexually the old fashioned way - with the right person this would be a beautiful experience of discovery. Watching porn before a person has sex is like, opening all your Xmas gifts before Xmas morning - it ruins the beautiful moment. With the stuff young people see with music videos etc - sex is portrayed as something dirty and not a beautiful loving experience it should be. It's all so confusing and scary.