I don't know if I have a place to speak in this forum as I am a gay male and have actually thrown a wine bottle in my day at a manipulative doctorate student where of course I was viewed as the more unstable one. My family is all college educated not to mean that violence can't occur as I have seen in my parents once, but I wanted to say my sister, the oldest of all of us is the wicked witch of the west. She got involved in the business world moving in between Silicon Valley and sometimes Colorado to find an extremely high paying position at Hewlett Packard in my town. She thinks of me as a slave I think. She drinks wine and boasts about her traveling expenses and her house that she has put tens of thousands of dollars into making it immaculate. She can't deal with men, and I am the closest person she has to a friend because I actually tell her she is out of line with how she treats the rest of our family and even friends that are perhaps not as financially as fortunate as her. She uses linguistic domination to make sure everyone knows she is the most important person in the room and this is part of the reason I hate the corporate world. The rest of my family is much more humble and she can be the rudest person at the table when the focus is off her next career move. She is caught up in a world that is beyond my grasp or desire to know and I have insulted her lofty Facebook status updates to the point of making her look like a young brat emotionally and this has really caused her to develop more sensitivites because for some reason she permits me some space to criticize her ambitions on the Facebook forum with all of her friends to read it. She has hundreds of them that could read if they wanted to and I think she is getting the point that when she succumbs to dining with our family instead of some fancy restaurant she is really finding who she is and where she came from. It is a strange adult relationship I have with one sibling but if she ever permitted a man in her life it would be her to battle her own darkness and inhumility. It would take quite a man to control her brassy behavior. I don't think she could handle it. This is what the corporate world has done to one woman that used to just be a strong willed girl looking to have a career and family of her own. Now it is just her. And now too I am alone, learning how to live without any intimate relationships. I too have ruined that outlet for the time being, but I am also a mentally ill patient, so I am looking for mentally ill aquaintances.

My point being is that sometimes, like my neighbor for instance, when violence comes into the picture we tend to isolate even if there are kids, and that is the current wave of our society. To be disattached from committments and live independently as best we can. I think solitude is a great resource when used correctly and can correct problems people have with getting involved with the wrong person. There are so many forms of abuse and in my opinion only God can heal the chips we all have on our shoulders from trying to be in a relationship. I have another sister and brother-in-law that I love to be around because they have learned a great deal from each other and live peacefully. It is nice to be at their house because there are no disagreements and they actually just live at a natural pace. You never know how long a good thing like that will last but I think they have a chance at making it together until they are grey and old, so I prefer being around them.