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In my opinion the problem is low self esteem and lack of morals. It is my belief that you have to teach your children to respect themselves and their partners. I get really angry when people say that there’s nothing you can do. There IS something you can do, educate your children!
My daughter will be 21 in a couple of months and only recently became sexually active.
I’m very open with my kids. Each and every one of my kids were conceived while I was on one form of birth control or another… my twins after my husband had a vasectomy. Pregnancy IS a natural consequence of sex. Another of my pet peeves is when people complain about the mother/father of their children. YOU chose them! I’ve emphasized to my kids that if this is not the person you are willing to risk having a child with, DON’T do it. We are humans, we have control over our urges.
My state makes any type of sexual contact between people under the age of 18 illegal, and they do prosecute. A very dear friend of ours just got out of jail last week. When he was 16 he pled no contest to having sex and placed on probation until he was 21. Two weeks before he turned 21 he violated his probation by attending a going away party where alcohol was present. 10 months in jail, to the tune of $25 a day, plus lawyer’s fees and court costs. He was to start back at college a few days after he was arrested; he lost all of that money for tuition and nearly a year of his life.
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I've been married for 24 years and have four wonderful children.
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