Byz, thanks for the links. The Standards are on target. The Mayoclinic info is one I do a lot for positive thinking. I'm waking up, coming in to my own and having that loner thought, it sometimes gets muddled and all the positive thinking in the world doesn't set it straight until talking it out. It's like what if all the progress I've supported myself on is not the way to go. Not a "rush to the T" thing. When I reach out here I get view points, get a totally new way of approaching whatever puzzles me, get to mull it over and I get to look at myself. Better yet I lose the vicariousness. I trust what I get here.