Thank you everyone sooo much for your thoughts/advice...I just got home from martinis with the ladies and am literally teared up as I type this...I told him initially and have told him that before I can even pretend to try to get over this, and for my mental sanity, I need to know why. I need to know why her and not other girls who have tried.

I thought I was ready to talk today and asked if he wanted to talk, and immediately he said "yes" but by that time I had repissed myself off and asked him if he had told anyone, to which replied "no" so I demanded that he needs to feel the embarrassment that I feel before I'm ready to talk.

About an hour later he had spoken to his parents and they said it was up to me to have to be able to trust us again and they were rooting for us. My parents are also rooting for us (and my father has hated every boy who even looked at any of his little girls for as long as I can remember. Haha.)

He, of course, wanted to come over but I told him that I was not ready to look at him yet, I currently have all of our pictures off the wall (placed gently to the side) so that I don't have to see him smiling at me...I want to put those up one day again, I'm just too hurt right now to take him back without anything solved.

Ugh.