hi guys

that's awesome slow... can you go a step further? what you said is great, but maybe we can tweek it more... like saying "we did not get cross with each other" is good, but if you state it in the positive tense it could be even better. Like, if i say "i was not sad" that is good, but if i say "i was in a good mood" that is even better, you know? Think you can give it a shot?

i just spoke with my mother on the phone and she has a terrible habit of framing everything in a negative tense, and to an extreme... i joke with her and i tell her that if it was a nice day she would say "yes, lovely day but it's going to rain tomorrow."

maybe i am being naive, but i've just gotten the idea that if bad stuff is happening i can face it with a light or a heavy heart... feeling worse doesn't fix anything so why not try to feel as good as one can in a situation?

now.. i am reluctant here because i see people who misunderstand the positive principles and they "paint lipstick on a pig." They try to make bad things sound cheerful, which makes no sense to me. That is invalidating. No way in the world i am going to say that this surgery is in any way happy or any less painful than it is. But i can focus on the upsides that are real, and how i can manage it all.

pachyderm... can you elaborate? i have always loved your unique viewpoint... can you say more about what you mean?

i'm feeling so sexy in these disposable undies.