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Originally Posted by BlackCanary
@Sannah, he found this picture and invite to lunch very provoking, I/my 18-yr old self was proposing a serious boundary violation.
I know I was VERY nervous about sharing it, almost had to hide this from myself.
Once he figured out what the picture was (Google street view not in focus), a look of horror flashed across his face. He asked "Did you take this picture?" He also wanted to know what was the purpose of the lunch invite, what would "she" expect to happen?. I told him "Wait and see, that's was the whole point, create the opportunity for something to happen".
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BlackCanary, I don't think I understand what you're saying about the picture. You have an 18 year old alter who created an invitation to your T to join her for lunch and then you showed your T the invitation, which included a photo of the proposed site for the lunch date (a restaurant?)? Why would your T be horrified by this? It doesn't seem so bad to me. It's not like either of you was going to act on this. And you were sharing with him that your 18 y.o. self wants to be closer to him, and wants him to step outside of the T role and meet with her in another context. None of this seems that unusual for a client. Many clients might have a little fantasy about meeting their T for lunch. It seems like you felt close and safe enough with your T to share your 18 y.o.'s desire with him. What seems unusual here, is your T's reaction to this. Why would he be horrified? Seems like an interesting impulse to explore together, and perhaps a chance to remind you of boundaries (more for your 18 y.o.'s sake). I think I am not really understanding what you told him... It just doesn't seem provoking or horrifying to me.