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Old May 22, 2010, 11:22 PM
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Originally Posted by AtreyuFreak View Post
I want to know if I should tell my current T (who, for some reason, is controlling the search for a new T) to expand the search for females and males in the area of expertise I need.
Why has the current search been limited to consideration of female therapists? I would think a search would include both males and females by default unless the client expressed a preference or the T helping with the search thinks you would do better with females. I think it would be an interesting topic to discuss with your T, since she knows you.

Since you have already had 10 female Ts, if you do find a male with the right expertise, why not try?

I have had two therapists. My first was female, my second and current is male. With the first, I really wanted a female therapist, because I was going through a hard relationship with a male in my life and I felt like a female would be more supportive and understanding to me in this situation. Therapy with her was only for about 9 months, off and on, and then I quit. She hadn't been able to help me that much, but I don't think it was because she was female. My second T I was apprehensive about because he was male, and I had this idea that a female would be more supportive. But I couldn't have been more wrong. My T is very supportive and empowering, and totally "gets" just about everything that is happening in my life. I also think that having a close relationship with him has been very healing, as it helped to be with a male who was nice to me and who actually liked me. In my negative, real life relationship, I think I had internalized my mate's antipathy towards me into "no guy could ever like me" from a simple "this particular guy does not like me." So the relationship with my male T has helped me see the fallacy of that internalization.
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Thanks for this!
AtreyuFreak