Solar, I'm glad to see you still posting.
1. I don't think age matters. I have been older or the same age as my female Ts, and I've had mother transference for them.
2. My understanding is that the transference could be about what you expect the person to be like, or what you want them to be like. So you want a mother, therefore the mother transference feelings.
3. Sometimes I have reacted to my Ts as peers, so i guess it changed somewhat.
4. I wish it would go away! Those feelings of wanting T to be everything to me haven't gone away. But ECHOES' experience may be more common than mine:
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I think with a therapist, it fades as the real therapy relationship grows and we get comfortable with it. We still have times of feeling as if we are being 'held' in therapy, of being nurtured, loved, cared about. But those things become real things we can take in, in the moment. The craving lessens. The real relationship begins to feel as good as or even better than the wished for relationship. When it feels real, then the energies spent on the wishing and craving are freed up and peacefulness can take their place.
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ECHOES, I LOVE what you said here! That's what I wish would happen to me in therapy.
5. I know that Freud believed that transference was the essence of the therapy and the T used it to make the therapy work. My Ts basically accepted it, but I don't think they "used it."