Vicki

Well done for seeing T and telling her at least some of the things you now remember. I know how hard it is. For me, getting things out - on paper or by telling - really helps to get it out of my head. Is there some way you can do that - maybe get it onto an online journal or something that w_i won't see, till you feel able to tell her about it? That way maybe it will stop going round and round in your head.

I agree that w_i has to know at some point, but I also understand wanting to protect her. We don't have that choice - what one knows all the others know.
Maybe you can find a way to let her know with T - when T is there? Then there will be someone else there to help her.
(((((vicki))))) I wish I had some answers for you.

Caroline