Why is your T controlling the search for a new T? I find that kind of ... well, controlling, especially since you said that she likes to make decisions for you without asking you. That's not typically the way that most T's work.
Most T's don't want to make decisions for you, and while they will generally offer referrals if you ask, I've never known of a T who actually controlled the search for a new T. Am I understanding that correctly? Is she really controlling the search, and is that what YOU want or what SHE wants?