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May 23, 2010, 02:12 PM
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Member Since: Apr 2010
Location: East Coast of Florida
Posts: 98
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Please don't feel like a failure. Marriage used to be a two way street and at divorce time it is usually. Both sides make mistakes. So accept your mistakes and make note of his but don't dwell on his or you will stay in misery.
I agree with the poster who said that 50 years ago people stayed in marriages because they HAD to. It's sad now that we get divorces like we discard used tissues. However, to those suffering from physical, emotional, sexual, financial and in-law abuse it is better to exit the marriage. IMHO. Trying to bring change thru marriage counseling I don't think, works too well. How many alcoholics really do stay sober and for how long? You could always get separated or divorced from a bad alcoholic but you could also get back with him/her if they ever got sober for a long time. Much better for the kids. 
I was married for 29 years and we had 2 sons. We;ve been divorced for 10 years. I hate him at this point but I will also never in a way, stop loving him. He was my first love and I do have happy memories of us and the boys. But I hope you get to feeling anybody who's down.
bipolarbearV Look for the Laughter!
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